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What to know before you take the abortion pill

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 16:00:01 GMT

What to know before you take the abortion pill

Because you deserve to have all the facts first

If you’re considering taking the abortion pill, you may feel like everything is happening too fast and you just want a quick solution. You’re not alone. Many women feel overwhelmed when facing an unexpected pregnancy. At AVA Care of Harrisonburg, we believe every woman deserves to be empowered to make informed decisions about their pregnancy.

Before you move forward with a medication abortion (also known as the abortion pill), there are a few important things you should consider to protect yourself and make a confident, unrushed decision.

1. Make sure you’re really pregnant

It might sound obvious, but the first step is confirming that you are actually pregnant. At-home pregnancy tests are a helpful start, but they can sometimes give false results, especially if taken too early. Confirming your pregnancy with a medical professional is the first step toward clarity. At AVA Care, we offer urine pregnancy tests, administered by a licensed medical professional, at no cost to you.

2. Get an ultrasound first

Even if you’re considering an abortion, an ultrasound is a critical part of having informed consent before taking the abortion pill. Here's why:

It confirms whether the pregnancy is viable (heartbeat is detected). If not viable, the pregnancy could be ending naturally in miscarriage, and the abortion pill is not needed.
It shows how far along you are, which determines if the abortion pill is even an option.
It helps identify an ectopic pregnancy which is a condition where the pregnancy develops outside the uterus making it a medical emergency. This cannot be treated with the abortion pill and requires immediate medical attention at your nearest emergency room.

AVA Care provides pre-abortion ultrasounds to support informed consent and answer all of these questions, so you can be well-informed before making your decision.

3. Understand the process, risks, and side effects

While some women may think of it as a quick fix, it's important to understand that this is a medical process that can have physical and emotional effects. It’s important to discuss this process and any potential risks with a medical professional.

4. Consider your emotional well-being

Many women report a range of feelings after taking the abortion pill — from relief to regret, from peace to grief. What you feel is valid and personal, but speaking with someone can help provide clarity in making your decision.

Just take one step forward

If you’re considering the abortion pill, start with a pre-abortion ultrasound at AVA Care of Harrisonburg . No cost. No pressure. Just answers. We’re here to walk with you and provide support—no matter what you decide.

Schedule your appointment today.

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Things to know while considering abortion

Sat, 01 Nov 2025 15:30:00 GMT

Things to know while considering abortion

Facing an unintended pregnancy can be overwhelming, and if you’re considering abortion, it’s natural to feel unsure about what to do next. At AVA Care of Harrisonburg, we believe every woman deserves to make an informed decision in a safe environment. That’s why we’re here — to provide medically accurate information, compassionate and professional care, and a confidential space to explore all your options so you can be empowered to make an informed decision.

If you’re asking, “How do I plan for my abortion?” , here are important steps to take before making a final decision :

1. Confirm your pregnancy

Before you can make any decisions, it's important to confirm your pregnancy . At-home tests are a helpful first step, but they aren’t always accurate. At AVA Care, we offer urine pregnancy tests that are administered by a licensed healthcare professional. Our medical team may also recommend an hCG blood draw to confirm your pregnancy so you know for sure.

2. Get an ultrasound

An ultrasound gives you key information to determine your next steps:

How far along you are
If the pregnancy is viable (i.e., has a heartbeat)
Whether the pregnancy is located in the uterus (not ectopic)

Since different abortion procedures are used at different stages of pregnancy, this information is essential. AVA Care offers pre-abortion ultrasounds at no cost to you .

3. Understand your options

There are multiple options available to you — abortion is one, but it’s not the only one. Our medical and patient services team provides information on:

Medication abortion (“the abortion pill”)
Surgical abortion
Parenting
Adoption

We practice holistic care, so we’ll help you understand how each option might affect you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

4. Know the risks and after-effects

Abortion, like any medical procedure, comes with potential risks and a necessity for follow-up care. Knowing the short- and long-term effects can help you make an informed and confident decision. AVA Care of Harrisonburg provides after abortion assessments four to six weeks after a medical or surgical abortion.

5. Talk to someone you trust

You don’t have to go through this alone. We offer patient advocates who will talk with you in a safe, confidential space. At AVA Care, we’re here to advocate for you, validate your concerns, and provide answers to your questions. We’re here for you—no matter what you decide.

6. Avoid rushing the decision

You have time. No one should pressure you into a decision, especially one this important. At AVA Care, we provide a safe, confidential place to pause and think through your next steps.

What AVA Care offers (at no cost to you):

Pregnancy testing & confirmation through ultrasound
Pregnancy options information
STI testing & treatment
Patient advocacy
A confidential and compassionate environment

Considering abortion and planning next steps can feel like a lot. But you’re not alone. AVA Care of Harrisonburg is here to empower you in your pregnancy decisions so you can make a confident and well-informed choice.

Call us or request an appointment — all services are confidential and at no cost to you.

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Signs of an incomplete abortion in Harrisonburg, Virginia

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 15:00:00 GMT

Signs of an incomplete abortion in Harrisonburg, Virginia

An unplanned pregnancy can be overwhelming, and some women choose to have an abortion, whether surgical or with abortion pills, without understanding the potential risks. One serious complication is an incomplete abortion , when pregnancy tissue remains in the uterus after the procedure.

At AVA Care in Harrisonburg, Virginia , we want women to have accurate information about their health, so they can recognize warning signs and know where to find support.

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What is an incomplete abortion?

An incomplete abortion happens when not all pregnancy tissue is expelled from the uterus. This can occur after a chemical abortion (abortion pills) or a surgical abortion. When tissue remains, it can lead to infection, heavy bleeding, or other serious medical issues.

Common signs of an incomplete abortion

If you or someone you know has recently had an abortion, watch for these warning signs :

Heavy or prolonged bleeding – soaking through more than two pads an hour, or heavy bleeding that lasts for days.
Severe abdominal or pelvic pain – cramping that worsens or doesn’t go away.
Fever, chills, or flu-like symptoms – possible signs of infection.
Foul-smelling vaginal discharge – may indicate uterine infection.
Ongoing pregnancy symptoms – nausea, breast tenderness, or fatigue that continues after the abortion.

Why it’s important to seek help immediately

Ignoring symptoms of an incomplete abortion can put your health at risk. Complications may include:

Severe infection (sepsis)
Hemorrhaging (dangerous blood loss)
Future fertility issues
Life-threatening conditions if untreated

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, seek medical care right away at your nearest emergency room.

How AVA Care in Harrisonburg, Virginia can support you

At AVA Care we provide:

Pregnancy testing & pre-abortion ultrasounds at no cost to you
Medical consultations in a safe and confidential environment
After abortion assessments (provided 4-6 weeks following an abortion)

While we do not perform or refer for abortions , our compassionate medical and patient services team is here for you—no matter what you decide.

You’re not alone.

Contact AVA Care in Harrisonburg, Virginia today for confidential care at no cost to you.

Why an early ultrasound matters—especially before taking abortion pills

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 20:08:54 GMT

Early Ultrasound in Harrisonburg, Virginia

Why an early ultrasound matters—especially before taking abortion pills

Free early ultrasound services in Harrisonburg, VA

When facing an unintended pregnancy, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. We believe information empowers. Whether you’re considering abortion or simply want to understand your options, getting a confirmation ultrasound is one of the most important first steps you can take.

We’re a nonprofit medical clinic in Harrisonburg, operating under the supervision of a licensed Medical Director. All of our medical services are provided by licensed healthcare professionals who care deeply about your health and well-being.

Through our holistic approach, we advocate for you, validate your concerns, and provide answers to your questions.

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Why should I get an ultrasound before an abortion?

Even if you’re planning to take the abortion pill, an ultrasound may be required by telehealth providers before prescribing the medication.

 Here’s why:

1. It’s vital to know how far along you are in your pregnancy.

Abortion methods differ based on how far along you are in your pregnancy. The abortion pill is only FDA-approved for up to ten weeks gestation. An ultrasound can accurately measure the gestational age and help determine your eligibility for different options.

2. In order to rule out an ectopic pregnancy.

Sometimes a pregnancy develops outside the uterus, typically in a fallopian tube. This is called an ectopic pregnancy, and it can be life-threatening if not treated promptly. Abortion pills will not treat this condition. An ultrasound confirms the location of your pregnancy to ensure your safety.

3. It’s important to confirm viability.

An ultrasound can detect whether your pregnancy is progressing normally and check for a fetal heartbeat. If there’s no heartbeat or development, you may be having a miscarriage and could avoid a procedure that isn’t medically necessary.

Free ultrasound services in Harrisonburg, Virginia

We provide confirmation ultrasounds at no cost to you. Our medical and patient services team will walk you through each step—providing information, compassion, and holistic care without judgment. Whether you're exploring abortion, parenting, or adoption, we’re here to help you make an informed decision.

Schedule your appointment today

If you think you might be pregnant, don’t wait. Schedule an ultrasound today to confirm your pregnancy and learn more about your options. We're here for you—no matter what you decide.

What are the abortion laws in Virginia?

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 18:13:33 GMT

Abortion Laws in Virginia

Understanding abortion laws in Virginia

Navigating reproductive health care can feel overwhelming, especially as laws and regulations vary from state to state. In Virginia, abortion remains legal with certain restrictions in place. Whether you're seeking information for yourself or someone you care about, understanding the current legal landscape can support informed and confident decision-making. If you’re considering abortion , AVA Care of Harrisonburg provides ultrasound services and information on abortion at no cost to you.

Current abortion laws in Virginia

Abortion is legal in Virginia, but it is subject to some restrictions. The following policies are currently in effect:

Abortion is prohibited in the third trimester, except when continuation of the pregnancy is likely to result in the death of the pregnant individual or substantially impair their physical or mental health, as certified by physicians.
Parental consent and parental notice are required for minors seeking an abortion.
State Medicaid coverage of abortion is limited and only available in specific circumstances, such as when the pregnancy endangers the life of the individual or results from rape or incest.
Qualified health care professionals, including certain advanced practice clinicians, are permitted by state law to provide abortion care—not just physicians.
Virginia law includes patient privacy protections for individuals seeking reproductive health services.

Miscarriage care is not the same as abortion care

It’s important to clarify that abortion laws or policies do not restrict access to medical care for miscarriage. A miscarriage, also known as spontaneous pregnancy loss, is medically and legally distinct from abortion. Miscarriage care remains fully legal and available across the state.

Unfortunately, misinformation has led some to believe that access to emergency care for miscarriage may be affected by abortion laws. This is not the case. Miscarriage can involve serious health risks, and hospitals and medical providers are both equipped and permitted to offer the necessary care. If you or someone you know is experiencing signs of a miscarriage, it’s essential to seek medical attention without delay.

Parental consent and provider guidelines

Minors seeking an abortion in Virginia must have both parental consent and parental notice. However, if you are under 18 and unsure of your next steps, know that you can still receive confidential support from AVA Care in Harrisonburg, Virginia.

We provide services such as pregnancy testing , confirmation ultrasound, and STI testing at no cost to you. Parental consent is not required for our services. We are here to advocate for you, validate your concerns, and provide answers to your questions.

Informed consent

Understanding your rights and responsibilities under state law is a crucial part of informed consent. Whether someone chooses to carry a pregnancy to term, explore adoption, or seek an abortion, access to clear, accurate information is essential.

We offer compassionate and confidential services before abortion in Harrisonburg, Virginia. If you're considering your options, we are here to support you—no matter what you decide.

Schedule an appointment today

If you think you may be pregnant and want to understand your options, AVA Care of Harrisonburg is here to help. Our compassionate medical and patient services team is here to support you with holistic care so you can make an informed decision for your pregnancy.

Schedule your appointment today and explore your options in a safe, nonjudgmental environment.

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Do I need an ultrasound before an abortion?

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 19:39:32 GMT

Do I need an ultrasound before an abortion?

Abortion is a big decision to make. Whether you are considering an abortion for your pregnancy or simply want to learn more, information empowers. One key aspect often overlooked in this decision-making process is the importance of an ultrasound before having an abortion. At AVA Care, we provide pre-abortion ultrasounds at no cost to you, so you can be empowered in your pregnancy decision.

Confirming pregnancy and gestational age

First and foremost, an ultrasound confirms the pregnancy and determines how far along you are. There are different methods of abortion, including medication and in-clinic procedures, and knowing the gestational age is crucial because it directly influences your options within the types of abortion procedures.

Identifying ectopic pregnancy

Another critical reason for getting an ultrasound is to check for an ectopic pregnancy. This occurs when a fertilized egg implants outside the uterus, often in a fallopian tube. Ectopic pregnancies are considered medical emergencies and require immediate medical attention. An ultrasound helps identify this condition, ensuring that any necessary interventions happen quickly. Your safety is paramount, and understanding the nature of your pregnancy is essential for that.

Determining pregnancy viability

Ultrasounds can also determine if your pregnancy is viable, meaning a heartbeat is detected. If no heartbeat is observed, this could indicate that the pregnancy is ending in natural miscarriage and an abortion procedure would not be needed.

Emotional considerations

Let’s not forget the emotional aspect. The decision to have an abortion can be overwhelming, and seeing an ultrasound image may help clarify your feelings. At AVA Care, we provide a safe space that allows you to discuss your emotions and concerns with a patient advocate. This support can be invaluable as you navigate your choices.

A pre-abortion ultrasound is not just a procedural step; it can be an essential part of the process that ensures your health and safety. From confirming pregnancy and identifying ectopic conditions to providing emotional support, ultrasounds play a pivotal role in empowering you to make an informed decision.

If you or someone you know is considering abortion, don’t overlook the importance of an ultrasound. It’s a crucial piece in your decision-making process. Schedule a pre-abortion ultrasound at AVA Care today.

AVA Care is here to Advocate for you, Validate your concerns and provide Answers to your questions. We are here for you – no matter what you decide. Schedule an appointment online or call 540.434.7528 today.

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Fast facts about abortion

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 18:55:42 GMT

Fast facts about abortion

Abortion is a choice that can have a significant impact on many areas of your life. Here at AVA Care of Harrisonburg, we believe that information empowers. Understanding the types of procedures, the cost, possible risks, and potential long-term effects is important as you weigh your decision.

Procedure type

Generally speaking, there are two types of procedures: medical and surgical. Medication abortion is commonly referred to as “the abortion pill,” and involves the use of medication to end the pregnancy, usually at home. Surgical abortion refers to several different in-clinic procedures that involve the use of surgical tools to end the pregnancy by removing the embryo or fetus and clearing out the uterus.

Costs

Abortion costs vary widely based on the type of abortion, how far along the pregnancy is, and where you live. Medication abortions can cost up to $800, and surgical abortion procedures can range into the thousands.

Risks

As with any medical procedure, each type of abortion has certain associated risks. Be sure you understand all the risks prior to making a decision - this is an important part of informed consent.

Long-term impact

Immediately after an abortion, it is very common to feel relief; the crisis presented by an unwanted or badly-timed pregnancy is over. However, some women may also experience emotional distress due to feelings of loss, grief, shame, regret, resentment, or guilt. Factors such as social or relational pressure, moral or religious background, and personal goals or beliefs can influence these feelings. Each woman’s experience will vary. It is important that you take care of yourself, and make an informed decision that is right for you. Making decisions quickly, without thought, or based on pressure from others can often cause pain and regret, so make sure that you have taken all the relevant factors into consideration and feel confident in your choice.

If you’re considering abortion, you are not alone in your decision-making process. At AVA Care, we have patient advocates and licensed nurses who would love to answer your questions and support you through this tough time. We are the experts on unintended pregnancy and here for you no matter what you decide. Schedule an appointment today .

If you’ve recently had an abortion, schedule an After Abortion Assessment at AVA Care to receive the follow-up care and support you deserve.

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Are there resources for after miscarriage?

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 09:26:17 GMT

Are there resources for after miscarriage?

If you are struggling with a miscarriage, we are deeply sorry for your loss. Grief can be a painful process that has many different emotions attached to it. You may feel anger, sadness, confusion, or even guilt. All of these feelings are normal and valid. You are not alone with those feelings. Thousands of women have gone through a similar process. It is estimated that 10-20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage. However, you still may feel that you are alone in your grief. Whether or not the pregnancy was intended, the experience of miscarriage can be painful both physically and/or emotionally.

There is no timeline for the grieving process. Some days may be heavy, while others may feel lighter. It is important to remember that healing is not linear, and the grieving process varies from person to person. Give yourself grace, kindness, and, most importantly, time to heal and move forward. There is no right way to grieve, but there is an abundant amount of resources, including websites, support groups, books, etc, that can help you in your healing process. Even if it is hard to see, there is hope. We encourage you and your partner to look through these resources and decide what will be most helpful for you. We also encourage you to seek support from a counselor, support group, or friend. You do not need to walk through grief alone.

Recommended resources:

Embracing Hope : A booklet created to help you embrace hope and comfort after experiencing a miscarriage
Moving Forward After A Miscarriage or Stillbirth: Healing Your Broken Heart : A woman’s story of moving through the grieving process after miscarriage
Miscarriage Hurts: Hope after Loss : A resource that provides women a space to tell their story with confidentiality, explore their emotions, and build their support team
The Sadie Rose Foundation : A local non-profit that offers bereavement services and one-on-one support
Virtual Support Groups : Multiple different virtual support groups for both men and women
Journey Counseling, Newman Avenue Associates, Community Counseling Center : Local counseling services

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How long should I wait to get STI testing after unprotected sex?

Fri, 06 Oct 2023 09:19:53 GMT

How long should I wait to get STI testing after unprotected sex?

After having unprotected sex, especially with a partner you are concerned about, it may be tempting to rush into a medical clinic to get tested for STIs. Your distress and desire for answers are valid. However, it is just as essential to get accurate STI results as it is to get timely results.

A sexually transmitted infection (STI) is a virus, bacteria, or parasite passed from one person to another through vaginal, oral, and anal sex. There are many STIs, such as chlamydia, trichomoniasis, and gonorrhea. Some symptoms of a sexually transmitted infection are burning, itching, bad odor, or an abnormal amount of discharge. However, it is possible to have an STI without symptoms. In fact, you are able to pass on a sexually transmitted infection to another person while you do not have symptoms. You should test for STIs regularly, especially if you have a new sexual partner or a sexual encounter you are concerned about.

If you believe you have an STI, it is critical to abstain from having sexual activity until you are able to get tested. The longer you wait to be tested, the more severe symptoms can become and the more you risk passing on a possible STI. If a sexually transmitted infection is allowed to continue without treatment, more serious complications, including pelvic inflammatory disease, may result.

For the most accurate STI results, the CDC recommends waiting two weeks after sex before being tested. It may be anxiety-inducing to wait after a sexual encounter you are concerned about; however, it is important to wait for the full duration of time. If you are tested too early, it may give you a false negative.

What can I do while I wait?

Take a deep breath, and don’t panic. In a state of anxiety, we often think of the worst-case scenario. There are resources available to you regardless of the test result.
Reflect, journal, or talk through your feelings. Try not to bottle up your emotions.
Reflect on the choices that you have made and if you would like to make any different choices in the future about your sexual health. Ask yourself questions: “Am I aware of the risks of hooking up with multiple partners?” or “Do I feel pressured to hook up or be regretful afterwards?” You are worthy of a healthy, lasting relationship.

The most important thing is to schedule an appointment to be tested. At AVA Care, we offer you STI testing and treatment at no cost to you. We believe every woman should feel confident and empowered to make smart choices regarding their sexual health.

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What if I take the abortion pill with an ectopic pregnancy?

Fri, 01 Sep 2023 09:17:42 GMT

What if I take the abortion pill with an ectopic pregnancy?

You’ve had a positive pregnancy test and are considering abortion. There are many questions that come along with that decision. Is an abortion safe? What is normal to feel and what is not normal to feel after taking the abortion pill? Another question that you could be asking yourself is, what would happen if I took an abortion pill with an ectopic pregnancy? In short: an abortion pill would not work on an ectopic pregnancy.

What is an ectopic pregnancy?

An ectopic pregnancy occurs when a fertilized egg implants outside of the uterus, most commonly in one of the fallopian tubes. A pregnancy that occurs outside of the uterus cannot survive. A fallopian tube isn’t flexible like a uterus is, therefore the fertilized egg could burst the fallopian tube as it develops. Here are some possible symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy:

Severe pain on one side of the abdomen or pelvis
Lightheadedness, dizziness, or fainting
Abnormally low blood pressure
The passage of tissue (not just blood clots) from your vagina
Bleeding or spotting
Shoulder pain

What does the abortion pill do?

An abortion pill uses two drugs, mifepristone and misoprostol, to complete a medical abortion. First, a woman is given mifepristone to block the effect of the hormone progesterone, which is necessary for the continuation of pregnancy. Secondly, a woman is given misoprostol which causes cramping that expels the pregnancy from her uterus. An abortion pill would not be effective in the case of an ectopic pregnancy because the abortion pill only expels what is inside the uterus. The symptoms of an ectopic pregnancy can overlap with the symptoms a woman could experience after a medical abortion.

What steps should I take?

An ectopic pregnancy is a life-threatening medical emergency. Immediate medical attention is imperative. It is crucial to know where your pregnancy is implanted prior to any abortion procedure. The only way to confirm where your pregnancy has implanted is through an ultrasound. At AVA Care, we offer ultrasounds and information about all of your options, at no cost to you. Our staff understands the difficulty of facing an unintended pregnancy and believes that information empowers women to make confident and informed decisions.

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Common questions about STIs

Thu, 20 Jun 2019 09:14:13 GMT

Common questions about STIs

What is an STI, and how is it different from an STD?

There is no difference. STI stands for “sexually transmitted infection,” while STD stands for “sexually transmitted disease.” The word “disease” may suggest an obvious state of illness including signs or symptoms. However, several of the most common STIs (for example, chlamydia or herpes) can display mild to no signs or symptoms in those who are infected. This means that the sexually transmitted pathogen is more accurately described as creating an infection, which may or may not result in disease.

How do I know if I have an STI?

It is important to know that in many cases, STIs do not cause any symptoms (they are “silent”). When symptoms are present, they can include:

abnormal vaginal/penile discharge
burning with urination
abdominal or pelvic pain
rectal pain, discharge and/or bleeding
vaginal bleeding between periods
pain or swelling in one or both testicles

How are STIs spread?

According to The Center for Young Women’s Health , most STIs are spread by direct sexual contact (vaginal, anal, or oral) with an infected person, through infected body fluids such as blood, vaginal fluids, or semen. They can also be spread through contact with infected skin or mucous membranes, such as sores in the mouth.

Do condoms protect me from STIs?

When used properly each time, condoms can reduce, but not eliminate, the risk of STIs.

How can I avoid getting an STI?

The best way to avoid contracting an STI is to not engage in sexual activity. If you do choose to be sexually active, the following basic prevention steps may help lower (but will not eliminate) your risk:

Use latex condoms or dental dams correctly every time you have sex
Limit your number of sex partners (for example, by practicing monogamy)
Don’t inject drugs or have sex with someone who uses injected drugs
Don’t have sex with a person who displays any signs or symptoms of an STI
Only have sex after both you and your partner have had recent, negative STI tests

Should I get tested?

Anyone who is sexually active outside of a long-term, mutually monogamous relationship should be tested for STIs. Pregnant women should also be tested as certain STIs can be passed along to the child. If you are sexually active, always have an open conversation about STIs each time you visit your doctor.

Why is testing important?

Because so many STIs are “silent,” you may not know if you have one. According to the CDC , anyone can become infected, but young people (ages 15-24) and pregnant women are among the most vulnerable populations. Since 2018, there has been an 80% increase in cases of syphilis, and other diseases are on the rise as well. Being tested for STIs is one of the most important steps you can take to protect your own health and the health of anyone with whom you choose to engage in sexual activity.

Where can I get tested?

AVA Care of Harrisonburg provides STI testing + treatment , at no cost, to women of child-bearing age. Request an appointment or call our office at 540.434.7528 to speak with a member of our Patient Services Team.

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How to help your friend through miscarriage

Thu, 23 May 2019 09:08:54 GMT

How to Help Your Friend Through Miscarriage

Miscarriage is devastating to those who have experienced it. Friends and family oftentimes are not sure how to provide comfort and it can be hard to find the right words to say. There are also individuals who may believe a miscarriage isn’t that big of a deal because the baby was never born. However, it can be one of the deepest pains a couple can experience. When dealing with a friend who is experiencing a miscarriage, the first important step is to understand the significance of their circumstance and loss. Here are some additional things to consider when comforting a friend:

How to Help After a Miscarriage

Acknowledge the Loss

Sometimes people don’t know what to say, so they avoid recognizing the loss altogether. By acknowledging the miscarriage, you show you care about your friend. Avoiding the topic may send a signal that you don’t care. Let her know you are sad for them. If you aren’t sure what else to say, tell her how much you care and ask her if there is anything you can do for them during this painful time.

Listen

Your friend needs room to express her feelings and grief. It is healthy for her to work through how she is feeling and normal for her to feel sadness, anger, shame or guilt. Processing these feelings is an important step in her healing. Give her room to express these feelings in a nonjudgmental atmosphere. Be sure not to push her into sharing more than what she is willing.

What NOT to Say

Avoid using clichés or minimizing the miscarriage. Examples: “You can always try again,” “You weren’t that far along,” or “Everything happens for a reason.” This type of “advice” only pours salt on a very deep wound. You may think you are helping, but most of the time it only adds to her pain.

What You CAN Say and Do

If you know the name of the baby, it’s OK to refer to him/her by that name. This can be helpful to parents as they grieve.
Offer to bring a meal or help with housework.
Send a sympathy or thinking of you card.
Try to remember the anniversary of the miscarriage and be prepared to offer your condolences, if your friend brings it up. Remember each year this may be a painful time for them.

For more suggestions on how to help your friend through miscarriage click here . Here is also a TED talk that offers great insight on those who grieve. Be sure to also check out our other blogs on miscarriage here.

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Dr. Teresa Klansek

Medical Director

The content on this page has been reviewed and approved by our Medical Director Dr. Teresa Klansek.

What Is miscarriage?

Wed, 27 Mar 2019 09:03:28 GMT

What is miscarriage?

According to the American Pregnancy Association (APA), studies done by the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists indicate that miscarriage occurs in 10-25% of all pregnancies, making it the most common form of pregnancy loss. A miscarriage is an unplanned loss of a baby that usually occurs before the 20th week of pregnancy.

Why does it happen?

Miscarriages are unpredictable, especially since they are often most likely caused by fatal genetic or developmental issues with the baby. While there are some obvious things that a pregnant woman can do to disrupt her pregnancy (like drinking alcohol or taking harmful drugs), most of the time, a miscarriage is not the mother’s fault.

What are the symptoms?

According to WebMD , symptoms of a miscarriage include bleeding that progresses from light to heavy, severe cramps, back or abdominal pain, fever, and weakness. Any of these symptoms may indicate that something is not quite right with the baby or the pregnancy, especially if these symptoms occur before 20 weeks. If any of these symptoms are present, see an obstetrician as soon as possible.

Can a woman have a healthy pregnancy after miscarrying?

Many people believe that once a woman has had a miscarriage, she is more likely to have another. According to the APA , 85% of women who have had a single miscarriage will go on to have a healthy pregnancy (75% for those who have experienced 2 to 3 miscarriages). Just because a woman has experienced a miscarriage does not mean she should lose all hope of ever having a baby. If you have experienced a miscarriage, it is recommended you wait a while to allow your body and emotions time to heal. Talk to your healthcare provider to determine when the time is right for you to conceive again.

If you or a loved one have experienced a miscarriage, there are resources to support you. You don’t have to go through this alone. Check out our blog Are there resources for after miscarriage?

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Consent

Thu, 21 Feb 2019 08:57:36 GMT

Consent

One of the most crucial aspects of engaging in any sexual encounter is understanding and practicing consent. It’s not just a legal requirement; it’s a fundamental aspect of respectful and healthy interactions. Let’s explore what consent means, why it matters, and how to ensure that you feel safe and respected.

What is consent?

Consent is an agreement between participants to engage in a specific activity. It must be clear, coherent, willing, and ongoing. Simply put, consent means that both you and your partner understand what you’re agreeing to, and that you both feel comfortable and enthusiastic about it.

Key elements of consent

Clear communication: Consent should be communicated verbally or through affirmative actions. If there’s any ambiguity, it’s important to pause and clarify.
Freely given: Consent should never be obtained through pressure, manipulation, or coercion. Both partners should feel free to say yes or no without fear of repercussions.
Ongoing process: Consent can be revoked at any time. Just because someone agreed to an encounter earlier doesn’t mean they have to continue if they feel uncomfortable.
Informed: Both parties should have all the necessary information about what they’re consenting to. This includes understanding any potential risks involved, like *sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

*If you were exposed or suspect exposure to an STI, request an STI testing appointment at AVA Care. All of our services are provided at no cost to you.

Why consent matters

Empowerment: Understanding consent empowers you to take control of your own body and decisions. It helps you set boundaries that reflect your comfort levels.
Respect and trust: Practicing consent fosters an environment of respect and trust between partners. It lays the foundation for healthy relationships, whether casual or serious.
Prevention of misunderstandings: Clear consent helps avoid misunderstandings and ensures that both partners are on the same page, minimizing the potential for regret or discomfort.
Legal protection: Understanding consent is also vital from a legal standpoint. Engaging in sexual activities without consent can lead to serious legal consequences.

When consent isn’t clear

If you’re ever in a situation where consent is ambiguous, it’s essential to stop and reassess. Here are a few guidelines:

Pause: If either you or your partner feels unsure, take a break. This is an opportunity to communicate openly about what you both want.
Talk about it: Have an open conversation about boundaries and comfort levels. It’s better to talk it out than to make assumptions.
Know when to walk away: If you feel pressured or unsafe at any point, it’s okay to remove yourself from the situation. Your safety and comfort should always come first.

Understanding and practicing consent is vital if you choose to be sexually active. By prioritizing clear communication, respect, and trust, you can be empowered to create healthier relationships. Remember, consent is not just a one-time check; it’s an ongoing dialogue that ensures you feel valued and safe. Stay informed and always prioritize consent.

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Dr. Teresa Klansek

Medical Director

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What does a healthy relationship look like?

Wed, 28 Nov 2018 08:46:49 GMT

What does a healthy relationship look like?

Dating can be an exciting part of life, filled with the thrill of new connections and the potential for deep companionship. However, navigating the complexities of relationships can be challenging. Understanding what constitutes a healthy dating relationship is crucial for fostering meaningful connections and ensuring your emotional well-being. Here’s a guide to help you cultivate a healthy dating experience.

Open communication

At the heart of every healthy relationship is effective communication. Being able to express your thoughts, feelings, and concerns openly is essential. Here are some tips for using open communication:

Practice active listening. Make an effort to truly listen to your partner. Show that you value their perspective and feelings.
Share your thoughts. Don’t hesitate to share your own feelings and opinions, even if they might lead to difficult conversations.
Be honest. Honesty helps build trust. If something bothers you, address it calmly and respectfully.

Mutual respect

Respect is fundamental in any relationship. Both partners should feel valued and appreciated. Here’s how to promote respect:

Acknowledge differences. Embrace the fact that you and your partner may have different opinions, interests, and backgrounds. Celebrate these differences rather than trying to change each other.
Set healthy boundaries. Discuss your boundaries and respect those of your partner. This includes emotional, physical, and social boundaries.
Support each other. Encourage each other’s goals and ambitions, providing support rather than competition.

Trust and honesty

Building trust takes time and effort. It’s essential to create a safe environment where both partners can be themselves without fear of judgment.

Be reliable. Show that you can be counted on. Follow through on promises and commitments.
Avoid jealousy. Jealousy can erode trust. If you find yourself feeling jealous, address those feelings openly rather than letting them fester.
Practice transparency. Share your thoughts and feelings, and encourage your partner to do the same.

Quality time together

While maintaining individual interests is important, spending quality time together helps strengthen your bond. Here are some ideas:

Plan regular dates. Whether it’s a dinner, movie night, or weekend hike, prioritize time together.
Try new activities. Explore new hobbies or interests together. This can lead to shared experiences that deepen your connection.
Be present. When you’re together, focus on each other. Put away distractions like phones to enjoy meaningful interactions.

Individual growth

A healthy relationship supports individual growth. Both partners should have the freedom to pursue their interests and personal development.

Encourage independence. It’s important for each person to maintain their individuality and independence, whether through friendships, hobbies, or career aspirations.
Set personal goals. Share your personal goals with each other, and support each other’s ambitions.
Celebrate achievements. Acknowledge and celebrate each other’s accomplishments, no matter how big or small.

Conflict resolution

Conflicts are a natural part of any relationship. The key is how you handle them.

Stay calm. Approach conflicts with a calm mindset. Avoid raising your voice or using hurtful language.
Focus on solutions. Instead of blaming each other, work together to find solutions to the issue at hand.
Know when to take a break. If emotions run high, it’s okay to take a break and revisit the conversation later.

Building a healthy dating relationship takes time, effort, and a commitment to growth from both partners. By focusing on open communication, mutual respect, and individual growth, you can create a strong foundation for a fulfilling partnership.

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Dr. Teresa Klansek

Medical Director

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Coping after abortion

Thu, 21 Jun 2018 08:27:32 GMT

Coping after abortion

The feelings you face after an abortion can be overwhelming. You might experience a wide range of emotions, from relief to sadness, or guilt. It’s normal to feel this way. Coping after an abortion and navigating these feelings can be difficult, but there is hope. We are here to offer you support. AVA Care of Harrisonburg provides after abortion assessments 4-6 weeks following your abortion. Our medical and patient services team will provide holistic and compassionate care as you process your experience.

Acknowledge your emotions

First and foremost, it’s important to recognize and validate your feelings. What you’re experiencing is part of your unique process. Allow yourself to sit with these feelings without judgment. Journaling can be a helpful tool for expressing what’s on your mind and heart. Writing down your thoughts can provide clarity and help you process your experience.

Reflect on your experience

When you feel ready, take some time to reflect on your experience. What are your hopes moving forward? Is there anything you would do differently if this happened again? Understanding your feelings can help you gain clarity about your next steps.

Seek support

You don’t have to go through this alone. Reaching out to trusted friends or family members can provide comfort and understanding. If talking to someone close feels difficult, consider scheduling an after abortion assessment appointment at AVA Care to meet with a professional and nonjudgmental patient advocate.

Give yourself time

Healing is not a linear process. Allow yourself the time to grieve, reflect, and heal. It’s okay to take things one day at a time. You might have good days and bad days, and that’s perfectly normal. Sometimes, certain emotions do not emerge until months or even years later. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that healing takes time.

Consider professional help

If you find that your feelings are overwhelming or persist for an extended period, seeking professional help can be a beneficial step. Therapists and counselors can provide valuable insights and coping strategies. They can help you navigate complex emotions and guide you toward healing.

Coping and healing after an abortion is a deeply personal journey, and it’s okay to seek help along the way. Remember, it’s normal to experience a range of emotions. By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support, and giving yourself time, you can move forward with compassion for yourself. You are not alone in this—there is hope, and healing is possible.

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Dr. Teresa Klansek

Medical Director

The content on this page has been reviewed and approved by our Medical Director Dr. Teresa Klansek.

Understanding the effects of hooking up during college

Thu, 03 May 2018 08:24:39 GMT

Understanding the effects of hooking up during college

College life is often seen as a time for exploration and new experiences, including dating and relationships. For many, this includes the hook-up culture that has become prevalent on campuses. While casual encounters may be exciting in the moment, it’s important to consider the effects of hooking up on your emotional and physical well-being. Check out some key aspects to consider.

Understanding hook-up culture

Hooking up typically refers to casual sexual encounters without the commitment of a traditional relationship. While this can be appealing in ways, it's essential to understand its implications. The hook-up culture can foster feelings of excitement and freedom, but it can also lead to emotional complexities and physical repercussions such as sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unintended pregnancy. Being aware of these dynamics allows you to navigate your sexual decisions more consciously.

Emotional well-being

One of the significant effects of hooking up is its impact on your emotional well-being. While some women may feel empowered by casual encounters, others might experience feelings of regret, confusion, or loneliness afterward. Reflect on your feelings and think about what you truly want from these experiences. Prioritizing your emotional well-being is crucial—if you find that hooking up leads to negative feelings, it may be worth reconsidering your approach.

The importance of communication

If you choose to engage in the hook-up culture, effective communication is key. Clearly expressing your intentions and boundaries can help set expectations for both you and your partner. Open dialogue can reduce misunderstandings and ensure that both parties are on the same page. Check out our blog about Consent to learn how to ensure that both you and your partner feel safe and respected.

Consider your values

At AVA Care, we practice holistic care, which includes caring for you physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Take a moment to reflect on your values and what you want out of your college experience. Are casual encounters aligned with your beliefs? Understanding your personal values can help you make choices that feel right for you, rather than simply going along with what’s trending.

Assessing risks

Engaging in hook-up culture comes with certain risks, including physical and emotional health concerns. It's essential to understand the physical risks of casual encounters such as STIs and unintended pregnancy. Before engaging in a casual sexual encounter, Additionally, being aware of the emotional risks—such as feeling pressured or regretting a decision—can help you make choices that prioritize your well-being.

Building healthy relationships

Hooking up can detract from building meaningful relationships. While hook-ups can be momentarily fun, nurturing long-term friendships and romantic relationships can lead to more fulfilling experiences during your college years.

Finding support

If you’re feeling conflicted about your experiences in the hook-up culture, don’t hesitate to seek support. Remember, you’re not alone in navigating these complexities, and seeking advice can empower you to make choices that will benefit your health physically, emotionally, and spiritually. At AVA Care, we provide STI testing + treatment and a safe, nonjudgmental space for you to discuss your sexual encounters and experiences with both a medical professional and sexual health advocate. All of our services are provided at no cost to you.

As a college woman, it’s important to know the effects of hooking up. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize what feels right for you, despite what the culture tells you is right. By understanding your emotional well-being, communicating effectively, considering your values, and being aware of the risks, you can be empowered to make informed choices that enhance your college experience.

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Dr. Teresa Klansek

Medical Director

The content on this page has been reviewed and approved by our Medical Director Dr. Teresa Klansek.

First steps when facing an unintended pregnancy

Fri, 01 Dec 2017 07:35:47 GMT

First steps when facing an unintended pregnancy

You just took a home pregnancy test, and it was positive. Now you’re facing the reality of a possible unintended pregnancy, and you’re not sure what to do next. Your immediate thought may be abortion, or maybe you’re feeling completely lost. You might be asking yourself questions like, “How can I tell my family?” “Can I afford this?” or “I’m still in school—how can I have a baby?” It’s natural to feel a mix of panic, fear, confusion, and even excitement. Take a deep breath and let’s walk through some steps to help you process this situation.

Step 1: Schedule an appointment at AVA Care of Harrisonburg

Taking that step to consult a medical professional can provide clarity. We provide nurse-administered pregnancy testing, confirmation through ultrasound, information on your options, and compassionate support. Having all the information can empower you to make decisions based on facts rather than fear. The following steps are provided through the services at AVA Care, all at no cost to you.

Step 2: Acknowledge your emotions

First and foremost, it’s essential to recognize your feelings. It’s normal to feel overwhelmed—this is a significant moment in your life. Allow yourself to experience these emotions without judgment. Consider journaling or talking to a trusted friend who can provide support. Acknowledging how you feel is the first step toward making a decision that’s right for you.

Step 3: Gather information

Information empowers. Understanding your options is crucial as you navigate this decision. Here are your main choices:

1. Parenting

If you’re thinking about raising a child, take time to imagine what that would look like for you. Consider your support system and the many resources available for those who choose to parent.

2. Adoption

If you don’t feel ready to parent but want to carry the pregnancy to term, adoption could be a viable option. There are many options within adoption that are important to know. This choice allows you to provide a loving home for a child while also pursuing your own needs.

3. Abortion

If you’re leaning toward abortion, it’s vital to understand the different types of procedures and what they entail. Scheduling an abortion consultation appointment at AVA Care will provide a space for you to discuss your options, address your concerns, and understand the medical and emotional aspects involved.

Step 4: Reach out for support

You don’t have to navigate this alone. Consider who in your support network can help you process this news. Friends or family members can offer valuable perspectives and assistance. If talking to someone feels daunting, schedule an appointment at AVA Care to meet with one of our professional and compassionate patient advocates who are dedicated to helping women facing unintended pregnancies.

Step 5: Take your time

Take some deep breaths and slow down. You have time to make a decision. Reflect on and understand each option before rushing into something you may regret later. You deserve to take the time you need to feel confident in your choice.

Step 6: Know your rights

Understanding your rights is crucial. Familiarize yourself with the laws in your state regarding abortion, parental, and adoption rights, as well as support for pregnant students. This knowledge will help you advocate for yourself and ensure that you’re informed about your choices.

Facing an unintended pregnancy can feel daunting, but remember that you have options and the power to choose. This is your experience, and you have the strength to make informed decisions that align with your values. Explore your options and be empowered to make a confident decision. Schedule an appointment at AVA Care today to receive the support and holistic care you deserve.

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Dr. Teresa Klansek

Medical Director

The content on this page has been reviewed and approved by our Medical Director Dr. Teresa Klansek.